As culture and religion change, many of us no longer have a ritualistic, dedicated day off. One day blends into the next with shoulds and maintenance errands. Jobs spill over into the weekend days, everything blurs, there is so much to do that any time for ourselves is stolen time and guilty time. Frequently that becomes ‘vege-out’ time in front of the TV.
Now, the tricky part is to pick a day that is Sunday. Maybe a little meditation, Tai Chi, Yoga. Do something different. Ritualize it, same day each week, anticipate it and plan little treats for yourself on that day. It takes 21 days to make a new habit so in this case it’s 21 weeks and therefore the success of it becoming integrated into lifestyle will depend on a very strong intention.
TV off. Don’t open mail with windows on Friday. There is nothing you can do about it until Monday but worry.
If you’re single and alone, treat this day as having a love affair with yourself. Do whatever you love doing and whatever will leave good memories. Paint, curl up with a good book, garden, grab a camera and hike, visit a new place, plan a mini adventure, garage sale or flea market shop. Call a friend and go out for a great brunch, coffee and good conversation. (Ground rules… only positive talk.)
Put the iPod on and let glorious music wash over you or listen to a non-violent audiobook. If cleaning house pleases you, throw open windows and doors, turn all the lights on, music loud and clean and sing and dance. It’s your nest and your day.
If you love to cook, plan the week’s meals, shop for it and spend the day cooking, tasting, inventing… music and lights on, doors open. Expansive, lavish, joyous time spent. Happy time.
Take the kids to the park and just watch them play. No fussing over them, no deadlines, just enjoy it.
Construct for yourself a guilt-free day of rest, a day of pleasant memories. Something to look forward to and back on. The body and the mind need this reduction of stress and renewal of spirit, that’s why Sunday was invented.