The how and why of unhappy, dysfunctional workplaces. and how to get out of it.
All disciplines have game theory, Computer. Psychology, Chemistry, Political, War…
Transactional Analysis is the study of Psychology game theory as defined by Eric Berne in his book. Games People Play. The how to recognize these games interference and how to get out of them is clearly laid out in the fascinating book by Jongeward and James, Born to Win.
The three part game, I’m OK. You’re Not OK., Now I’ve Got You, You Son of a Bitch, and Rappo! (throwing a monkey wrench into the works) is the foundation of America. It’s the foundation of what goes on inside of families, of hospitals, schools, governments, business, each a microcosm os the whole. Rappo is when, for example, managers of a large hospital unit walk in one morning and fire the strongest, most talented, smartest nurse. This controls behavior of the staff for years.
So you recognize that this game is in play and someone begins the scenario with you. How to get out of it? Simply say: “I’m not playing.”, turn and walk away. The thing that always amazes me is that this sentence stops them, even when they don’t understand game theory and are so entrenched in a game within the framework of their lives that they believe it to be normal behavior.
This game underlies dysfunctional families and super controllers. It stifles excellence, creativity and good outcome.
The goal of excellence is positive regard, partnership, mutual support and success creates opportunity for serendipity, the meat of life.
I asked a film director what his job was and he said: “My job is to create a framework within which everyone can do his best work.”